The Amish Way of Helping Troubled Teens

The Amish people have their own unique beliefs and unique way of handling troubled teens. Amish troubled teens are taught the benefits of hard work, the importance of finishing tasks and assume responsibility at a young age.   Work cures all is the basis of the Amish remedy for troubled teens.

The Amish are a group of Anabaptist Christians who believe in simple communal living and hard work. Their religion is based on coming to individual conclusions based on the Bible. Self sufficiency, discipline and hard work are the main principles of the Amish way of life. Amish teenagers live within the Amish social circle and learn to become well adjusted adolescents and adults. However, with the inroads made by the outside world into the Amish way of life, it is not unusual to find troubled Amish teenagers who have negative habits and behavior.

As prosperity increases and Amish youth work outside the community, Amish parents are unable to exercise control over them. O

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Problems Facing Teens Today

Teen problems are growing. If you think that being a teen today is the same as it was when you were in their shoes, you are probably mistaken. Now, listen to yourself say how strict and how hard life was when you where young. But, you need to realize that teens today face huge, life threatening decisions just about ever day. What they face has a lot to do with where they grow up. Yet do not be fooled into thinking that your child is safe.

In the normal course of your teen’s day, he or she may face any of these things; one or more of them.

Drugs. Think that drugs are simple like they used to be? They are not. Kids today are not just smoking the easy stuff. They are into crack or other strong and deadly drugs.

Sex. Not only are they exposed to it on the television, but they are encouraged by others. They may be engaging in sexual acts that you have never heard of. They may be doing it unprotected as well. At school, a

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Why Do Kids Become Addicted to Video Games?

Video games are quickly becoming an epidemic in this generation. Young children are being introduced to it from the moment they learn to push buttons. Kids and teens are constantly targeted for gaming advertisements everywhere they go. Worse yet, adults are sacrificing their lives for a fabricated reality, to escape the real world where making choices can be overwhelming and demanding. Millions are choosing this life, and are suffering the dire consequences.

First, I want to answer the question: why do people become addicted to video games?

1. Boredom

This is a huge factor. If you do not have a plan to keep your kids active during their free time, video games can easily consume countless hours of their attention. It is almost human nature to default to the least challenging functions in life. For example, reading a book requires focus, and patience- it forces you outside of your perspective and way of thinking and introduces new possibilities. Playing video game

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Teenage Alcoholism and Teenage Drug Abuse: The Trust Fund Baby Crisis

Are you killing your kid with kindness? If you are parents that are enablers that have set up a trust fund for your kid, think twice about your action. As a psychiatrist that specializes in addiction, I am exposed a lot to the “trust fund baby crisis”. In other words, I treat young people who fund their drug and alcohol use with the money YOU are supplying them. Trust funds perpetuate teenage alcoholism and teenage drug abuse.

Trust funds are a form of “enabling”. They often prevent a teen from becoming a self-sufficient, independent young adult. Families set up trust funds because they want to make things “easier” for their children compared to how they grew up. BIG MISTAKE!

Trust funds are the fastest way to drive your teen toward dependence and laziness. Trust funds are crippling and often plant the seeds for developing addiction. Addiction combined with a lot of money can be lethal. Trust funds disable your teen by interfering wi

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Teens and Alcohol

Alcohol abuse is a serious problem for teens in our country. It has been well publicized that drinking for the sake of getting drunk has many negative consequences for both adults and teens. Some of these negative consequences include loss of job, homicide, addiction, driving while intoxicated, and spouse abuse.

Alcoholism is not merely a problem for adults. It would surprise many if they were to learn that alcohol is the most commonly abused drug in America among teens today. Even though the alcohol consumption of our nation has been declining for years, the increasing number of minors who drink is getting out of hand. Today there are close to 3 million teens between the ages of 13 and 17 who are considered problem drinkers according to the American Academy of Pediatrics. In addition to those three million, there are another 300,000 more teenagers who are dependent on alcohol. Many teens experience the negative consequences of alcohol abuse that include poor grades, getting

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That’s Boring: Why Classic Literature Is No Longer Relevant to Tech-Savvy Teens (or Not)

English teachers and librarians frequently lament the disinclination their students feel toward classic literature-specifically, anything written before the twentieth century. Not only, do they believe, that today’s young adults need the short-snappy-immediate prose (if one can call it thus) of cell phone texts, but they will no longer read classic literature on their own, for pleasure’s sake, unless it’s assigned-and even then, teachers are forced to test against Cliffs Notes and scan for the internet for proof of plagiarized papers. With random predictions forecasting the doom of paper and the downfall of traditional libraries, is it a waste of time to subject teens to the likes of Homer and other historic authors during this Information Age when bite-sized information is the rule of the day?

For many students, who do not hesitate to complain, the language of past writers is too hard. Since people no longer speak or write the way Shakespeare and J

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Technology, Social Media and Your Teen

My children are at an extremely low-tech school. There are no televisions, computers or tablets in the classroom, and mobile phones are forbidden during the school day. Families are encouraged to keep their children screen-free in the early years (up until age six) and for grade one through seven, limited screen time is recommended for weekends only. Our family has followed these guidelines since our children started at the school and we have rarely deviated from them.

Now that my daughter is 13 and in high school, the struggle to limit screen time and exposure to social media is real. Most of my daughter’s classmates have Instagram accounts and many of them are smuggling phones into the classroom, despite the “no tech” rule. She says that without her own account, she often feels a disconnect with her classmates because she didn’t see the latest Instagram post that everyone is talking about. Are we impeding her ability to socialize and communicate with

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Social Networking’s Good and Bad Impacts on Kids

Social networking provides benefits and poses risks for children. Social networking sites have a lot to offer, from apps, games, and the chance of meeting lots of people. These things make them appealing to young kids and teens. And experts say exposing kids to social media can actually help them, but the fact that it can also harm them is also undeniable.

The Bad Effects

According to some studies, teens who use social networking more often show more narcissistic tendencies. Also, young adults who have a strong presence on Facebook show more signs of psychological disorders such as antisocial behavior and manic-aggressive tendencies.

Overuse of social media technology such as the computer and mobile devices can also have a negative effect on the health of children, pre-teens, and teenagers. This makes them more susceptible to depression, anxiety, and other psychological problems.

Facebook and other social networking sites are distracting and can have a ne

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Kids and the Constiution, or the Day My Kid’s Tried to Impeach the President

It all began when I took out the Presidential Cards that I made a few years ago in order to provide a “Knowledge Challenge” in honor of Presidents Day for my Passport Kids. I love the spontaneous learning that occurs during the conversations that these challenges inspire.

The challenge was to put all the Presidents in order, from Washington to Trump. As a bonus, I asked them to name the eight Presidents who had died in office and how they had died. Over the years, I have found that Presidential deaths make a great conversation starter with the kids, and they end up asking questions about all kinds of stuff. What can I say? If it works, keep working it.

So at one point, Gecki, a precocious eight-year-old girl, asks, “Why is there a mirror on the back of the last card?”

“That is because we don’t know who the next President will be yet, and someday it could even be you.”

Satisfied with my answer, she goes ba

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Bullying – Not My Child!

The headlines have recently reported the tragic consequences of bullying. While this is not new behavior, it is increasing due to the feeling of anonymity that bullies have when they use electronic devices to bully. Let’s get clear on a definition of bullying. Any one of these three main conditions are present in a bullying situation: harm, unfair match (either in age/size or in numbers i.e. 3 kids against one) and repetition. Examples of bullying including:

  • Hurting someone physically
  • Stealing or damaging another person’s things
  • Ganging up on someone
  • Teasing in a hurtful way
  • Using put-downs, such as insulting of someone’s race, weight, intelligence, appearance or making fun of someone for being a boy or a girl
  • Touching or showing private body parts
  • Spreading rumors about someone
  • Texting rumors or lies
  • Publishing rumors or lies on social networking websites
  • Excluding someon
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